Tools for Forgiveness

Tools For Forgiveness
The need to understand the power and place of forgiveness in our world is important in the healing process. See humility as forgiveness. Your own sense of peace and contentment are born out of forgiveness. How and when you forgive, reflects much of the way you view yourself and the world around you. Consider these reasons and tools for forgiving:

1. Our ability to forgiven is in direct proportion to our ability to receive forgiveness.

2. When we are able to forgive all parts of ourselves, this allows us to be that much more perfect and whole. This in turn helps us to forgive others for any past mistakes.

3. Remember: mistakes come from good people who from time to time made some bad choices.

4. Judgments, resentments and grudges are destructive emotions. When left unchecked, unresolved or not under control, they can wash away the foundation of any relationship.

5. A wake-up call is in order! Talk it out. Resolve issues, disputes and misunderstanding by expressing your feelings in a calm, well thought out, civil conversation. Preferably in person.

6. When we hurt ourselves we hurt each other. Learn to forgive yourself by releasing your guilt. Learn to forgive others by letting go of your ego.

7. Remind yourself that we live in each other's hearts and when we look at ourselves we see each other. When we love each other we love ourselves more.

8. Learn to understand the relief you gain from forgiveness.

9. Step up to the plate and speak your peace.

10. Forgiving is the ultimate in acceptance of yourself and others. It revels a path to our true selves.

"Always forgive your enemies--nothing annoys them so much." - Oscar Wilde

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Tips for Understanding Forgiveness

1. Upon waking, write down the name of the person you are forgiving. Write down what it is you are forgiving them for.

2. It is a good idea to write words such as I am, I can, I will.

3. Write down your perception of the misunderstanding.

4. Jot down significant words/phrases, that signify your mindfulness, today. "My partner", "my great career", "my respect for myself and others".

5. List what negative feelings you are still holding on to. Explain in your journal.

6. Now learn about the power of letting go of these feelings. Write down each day, something new that you find forgivenss in doing, seeing, saying, hearing...

7. Understand, it is now time to let go, which you will do by__________ _________ _. (write it down). Look at it periodically.What has positive impact on your thoughts?

8. Do you see failure as a stumbling block or a stepping stone to forgiveness? Find three things in forgiving that make it a steppingstone to the next level! List them now.

9. Be sure and write the time and day on the top of the page.

10. Make this journal your own! Buy or make a book that you are eager
to go to each day. Use stickers, color, doodles that all express your
journey to forgiving yourself and others.

Andrew Pacholyk, MS, L.Ac.
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